This is my 175th blog post on coffee soothes the soul. What? How is that even possible? It blows my mind!
I have written so many posts, I have to search through them to see if I have talked about a topic, how frequently, and in what capacity. Based on my quick search, I have talked about relaxing here and there. But, not in the way I intend to today.
I am going to be blunt about it—I am terrible at relaxing.
Quite frankly, even though I was born in Russia, my inability to relax is one of the most American qualities about me. And as I get older, it bugs me more and more.
Honestly, I have had many stern conversations addressing my inability to relax. Yet, I just don’t seem to get it.
If my studies in communication have taught me anything, it is that some cultures appreciate slowness and taking one’s time. Perhaps, that’s why some nations enjoy siestas.
On the other hand, other cultures, like America, thrive on always doing, being, moving. They thrive on what the cool kids of today call “the hustle.”
Sometimes, my body gets stressed as I try to relax. Granted, maybe, I am relaxing wrong, which could be part of my problem.
For, I have yet to understand that doing nothing doesn’t equate to relaxing. How do I know this? Well, yesterday, I spent the morning doing nothing and called it relaxation.
However, in the afternoon, I legit had a near breakdown because I was so stressed about the things I needed to do. Yet, if I had truly relaxed like I thought I did, I would not have been unhealthily stressed about my to-do list. Instead, I would have calmly faced what needed to be done.
Nevertheless, that very scenario I just spoke of is also part of the reason why I am terrible at relaxing.
When I create a to-do list, I set myself up for failure and stress before I even start. I do this by creating this idea that I must finish what is on my to-do list. In other words, that my to-do list is filled with requirements—not mere reminders and directional guides.
As a result, when I don’t complete said items—usually because I set unrealistic expectations for myself—I get upset and flustered. That ultimately leads to me being overwhelmed. And then, I manage to waste more time and cause undue stress on myself while I freak out.
Does that sound familiar to anyone else? Or, is it just me? Am I being too vulnerable? Perhaps.
But, I honestly think that’s what I need in this area of my life. I need to call out my sin. I need to call out my unhealthy habits.
I need to truly relax and not just say I will. And no, I don’t need to “learn” how to relax. That’s just an excuse for me to put it off or to pass the blame when I am stressed.
Most importantly, I need to break the never-ending cycle of setting aside a full day to “the hustle.” Then, going back to work the next day feeling depleted. Then, complaining about how unrelaxed I feel.
Instead, I need to actually relax. For me, that usually means Netflix binging. For others, that may mean reading a book. But, for me, I know that usually means using as little thought as humanly possible and enjoying a funny show.
It also means not doing too much at once just because I think I have the energy to do it. Quite frankly, just because I have the energy to complete a task doesn’t mean I should.
So, yesterday, that meant leaving the jeans in the dryer. That meant waiting to put the final touches on my blog. That meant allowing myself to watch another episode of my current Netflix binge.
My call to you is this: Discover the best way for you to relax. And I do mean the best way. Not just the way you think you should. Nor, does it mean do nothing. Find something that you enjoy doing that when you finish, you think, “Wow, I feel relaxed.”
And as cheesy as it sounds, you’ll know when you have discovered the method that works best for you. True relaxation somewhat puts me in a daze and I feel like I could accomplish even the hardest task.
So, please relax. Your body will thank you.
Thank you dearly for taking time out of your lives to read my blog! Your support means the world to me. I praise God you found this blog, whether you stumbled upon it accidentally or sought it out intentionally.
I’d LOVE to hear from you all! Feel free to leave a comment or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I pray God would bless you and be with you always, no matter where you find yourselves in life.
He was delivered over to death for our sins and was raised to life for our justification. – Romans 4:25 (NIV).