Social Media: Why I Don’t Use Facebook

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Probably out of all weeks in the year, I have the hardest time coming up with content during Thanksgiving week. See, I post on Thursday evenings. America’s Thanksgiving always falls on a Thursday.

Therefore, most of my readers will probably be in a food-induced coma. Or, they may still be grubbing on food with family. So, Thanksgiving is wonderful for me, but it can put me between a rock and a hard place, especially since I am not a lifestyle blogger who can fill her page with pre-Black Friday sales. I am more than okay with this, though.

I am content with my food-induced coma audience. In fact, I know most of my readers will probably be doing one thing—aimlessly scrolling through social media while drifting in and out of sleep. But, I won’t be doing that as much this year. For, it was nearly a year ago that I got rid of my Facebook profile.

To be completely honest, I am extremely glad I did. When I deactivated the account, it was a spur of the moment action, driven by a long thought out decision. I thought I’d try it out for a little bit and see if I made the wrong decision. But, nearly a year later, I don’t think I did.

Before I divulge into the whys behind this decision, I’ll say I am not completely anti-social media. I am just extremely picky about it. In fact, I’ve talked about social media a little bit in a previous blog post, which you can read here.

As I’ve stated before, I maintain an Instagram because I just can’t say no to a feed filled with adorable fluffy dogs, San Diego scenery, and coffee. Besides, there’s something much more intriguing about sharing one’s life through photographs—even if they can be overly staged.

As I’ve also stated before, I opt for platforms I can interact with others without feeling obligated or pressured to post myself—also known as an introvert’s dream. When I do post something on my Instagram, it’s typically about my blog. I know, I know. I don’t have a spectacular social media presence. Again, I am content with this.

In fact, it is partially because of my not so spectacular social media presence that I got rid of my Facebook. I used to be one of those people who posted on a somewhat regular basis. Then, working toward my bachelor’s degree squandered that quickly. I came to a point where I did not post for weeks. If I did, it was a funny conversation thread or photograph. I hardly posted anything of relevant importance.

Before I took the plunge, I was conflicted. I have family all over the nation who I don’t see often. So, I found myself wanting to keep my Facebook to stay in touch with them. But, truthfully, my own family didn’t post much. So, I thought, was it worth it if they don’t post much either?

I also know a lot of people use Facebook to stay in touch with high school friends. With each year, I found myself purging more and more people from my list. I essentially came to a point when I asked myself, “Do I actually want to know what’s going on in their lives? Have we talked in a year?” If I answered no to either of these questions, I’d unfriend the person.

I also found myself conflicted with the obligatory friends. The people who I felt like I had to maintain a social media presence with for the sake of history or peer pressure. Yeah, I got tired of it real fast. There is a reason why I don’t stay in touch with people I went to high school with. Most of them were not a good influence on my life. All glory to God, I am a completely different person now than I was back then.

I constantly found myself wasting so much time. I’d say I’d take a small break that’d turn into an hour. Plus, I am one of those people who notoriously always found themselves annoyed after spending a certain amount of time on Facebook. Something or someone would irk me or irritate me somehow, which would cause me to be a complaining grouch. Social media scrolling was not good for my well-being.

Now, I understand the decisions I made may be callous and rude. But, I don’t use social media like the average person. I either use it for the people connection or lack thereof it.

For instance, I even recently purged my Instagram because I found myself spending way too much time on it. I said enough is enough. Honestly, I thought about getting rid of my Instagram altogether, too, but I opted not to—for now. Instead, I went through a cleanse of who I followed.

So, there you have it. I got rid of my Facebook nearly a year ago. One day I was there. The next I wasn’t. I don’t regret the decision. In fact, if you can resonate with any of the factors that led to my decision, I’d challenge you to deactivate your account, too.

No, you may not choose to stay off the platform like I have. But, I do think it will help you gain perspective. Social media is good when used wisely. Otherwise, it is only a more visible platform seeking to disrupt our well-being.

If you do not resonate with this, I’d love to hear why you use social media. I think a lot of people commit to decisions or behaviors because it is what is accepted in popular culture. We may neglect to see there are more negatives than positives. We may neglect to see the extent of influence one platform can have on us.

For now, enjoy your food-induced coma.

Blessings,

Renata

 

Thank you dearly for taking time out of your lives to read my blog! Your support means the world to me. I praise God you found this blog, whether you stumbled upon it accidentally or sought it out intentionally.

I’d LOVE to hear from you all! Feel free to leave a comment or e-mail me at coffee.soothes.the.soul@gmail.com.

I pray God would bless you and be with you always, no matter where you find yourselves in life.

He was delivered over to death for our sins and was raised to life for our justification. – Romans 4:25 (NIV).

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